Are you selling shoes too?
Your mindset has a parallel in physics. Like energy, it can neither be created nor destroyed. It can only be transferred between states.
The critics, the naysayers, the mediocrity-obsessed people, the spoiled brats, the drama queens, the whiners, the haters are in one mindset. They are forever stuck in a box of stagnation kidding themselves that they enjoy it.
While on the flip side, you have the optimists, change-seekers, the shell-breakers, the game-changers, the unconventionalists, the trendsetters, the outspoken, the dashing ones, the innovators, the monks, the builders, the makers who are in this other state of mindset. They also kid themselves that they enjoy it.
Objectively speaking no one actually knows who’s enjoying more. Though the world is so much better off with the second category than with the first category.
So, decide your side. Jump into the boat you want to choose to be in. And mind you, don’t you better swing between the boats. That’s even worse. You’ll end up doing nothing but ageing.
I once read a story about two salesmen who sold shoes. Both of them were sent to an island where no one wore shoes. Not even a single one. The first one called his head office and yelled "No one wears shoes here. Cancel the shipment!“
The second guy called and screamed ”No one wears shoes here. Double the shipment!“
Make a choice.
Footnote: I recently came across a book recommendation from a highly intellectual mentor.
The book is "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion". It was so compelling that I just ordered it. Have you read it? How has it helped you? Love to hear your thoughts.